MARRIAGE AND DIVORCE
Marriage to Unbelievers.
Deuteronomy 7:2-6.
The book of Deuteronomy is a series of addresses given by Moses on the
banks of the Jordan just before his death and just before Israel entered
the promised land. He gives two reasons why Israelites should not
intermarry with unbelieving nations. First such marriages would turn
them away from following the true God, and second, they would soon cease
to be a distinct and holy people. So great was this danger that Joshua
gave the same warning in his farewell sermon just before his death.
Joshua 23:1-13. Joshua declared that the results of such marriages would
be fatal to their prosperity and spirituality and even their national
existence.
The Reformation
The future history of Israel showed the need of these warnings although
they were forgotten, especially during the Babylonian captivity. On the
return to the promised land, Ezra carried on a reformation in which he
demanded obedience to God’s instruction through Moses and Joshua. Ezra
9:1-6, 10-12, 15. This shows how terrible the sin of mixed marriages is
in the sight of God. The people responded to the call for a reformation
and the camp was cleansed of an evil that was bringing upon them “the
fierce wrath of God.” Ezra 10:1-14. But only 12 years later the
reformation had to be resumed by Nehemiah who used severe measures to
convince the Israelites of the terrible nature of sin of intermarriage.
Nehemiah 13:23-27. This was a part of the reformation which included
proper Sabbath observance and faithfulness in tithe paying. Nehemiah
13:10-22.
Still Dangerous
The passing of time has not lessened the danger of God’s people
intermarrying with unbelievers. 2 Corinthians 6:14-18. Our very message
is to announce that “Babylon is fallen, is fallen. … Come out of her
my people.” And yet in the face of all the warnings of Scripture and
the sad lesson of the past, thousands of modern Israelites are going
into modern Babylon to find their life companions. This is a very
serious step and one of three things must eventually happen. Either the
Christian will give up his or her faith and go with the unconverted
companion into the world and be lost, or the worldly companion will
become a Christian, or there must eventually be a sad separation. In
only a small percent of such unions is the unconverted and worldly
companion won to the church. Two persons cannot be happy unless they are
agreed and can walk together. It is essential to a happy home that the
husband and wife be mated physically, intellectually, morally and
spiritually, and of the four, spiritual agreement is the most important.
Sign of the End. Genesis 6:2, 5;
Matthew 24:37-39.
“We are living in the last days when the mania upon the subject of
marriage constitutes one of the signs of the near coming of Christ. God
is not consulted in these matters....There is not one marriage in one
hundred that results happily, that bears the sanction of God, and places
the parties in a position better to glorify Him. The evil consequences
of poor marriages are numberless. They are contracted from impulse. A
candid review of the matter is scarcely thought of and consultation with
those of experience is considered old-fashioned. Impulse and
unsanctified passion exist in the place of pure love. Many imperil their
own souls, and bring the curse of God upon them, by entering into the
marriage relation merely to please the fancy.”—Vol. 4:503, 504.
Marriage is often considered a joke and not half the study and thought
given it as to a business partnership or even a business contract.
Worldly Alliances
“It is a dangerous thing to form a worldly alliance. Satan well knows
that the hour that witnesses the marriage of many young men and women
closes the history of their religious experience and usefulness. They
are lost to Christ. They may for a time make an effort to live a
Christian life; but all their strivings are made against a steady
influence in the opposite direction. Once is was a privilege and a joy
to speak of their faith and hope; but they become unwilling to mention
the subject, knowing that the one with whom they have linked their
destiny takes no interest in it. As the result, faith in the precious
truth dies out of the heart, and Satan insidiously weaves about them a
web of skepticism. … Those who profess the truth trample on the will
of God in marrying unbelievers; they lose His favor, and make bitter
work for repentance.”—Ibid., p. 504, 505. If those
contemplating such a step could only hear some of the heart-breaking
confessions that are being made to church leaders, it would warn them of
the fearful consequences of going contrary to God’s instruction.
Forfeit Protection
“Though the companion of your choice was in all other respects worthy,
yet he has not accepted the truth for this time; he is an unbeliever,
and you are forbidden of heaven to unite yourself with him. You cannot
without peril to your soul, disregard the divine injunction. … You
cannot see behind the scenes, and discern the snares that Satan is
laying for your soul. … To connect with an unbeliever is to place
yourself on Satan’s ground. You grieve the Spirit of God and forfeit
His protection. Can you afford to have such terrible odds against you in
fighting the battle for everlasting life? You may say, “but I have
given my promise, and shall I now retract it?” I answer, if you have
made a promise contrary to the Scriptures, by all means retract it
without delay, and in humility before God repent of the infatuation that
led you to make so rash a pledge. Far better to take back such a
promise, in the fear of God, than keep it, and thereby dishonor your
Maker.”—Vol. 5:364, 365.
High Moral Standard. Deuteronomy
23:14, 17; 22:20, 21.
Under the Exodus movement unfaithfulness to the marriage vow was
especially severely dealt with. Verse 22. Has God changed or lowered His
standard in this matter? Eccl. 8:11. If the Lord pronounced the sentence
of death upon those guilty of adultery, surely the church can do nothing
less than disfellowship them. This is absolutely necessary to the
preservation of the purity of the church. This is the standard under the
Advent Movement and it should be maintained without fear or favor. “Cleanse
the camp of this moral corruption, if it takes the highest men in the
highest positions. God will not be trifled with. Fornication is in our
ranks, I know it, for it has been shown me to be strengthening and
extending its pollutions. … Cleanse the camp, for there is an accursed
thing in it.”—T.M. 427, 428. “The time has come for earnest and
powerful efforts to rid the church of the slime and filth which is
tarnishing her purity.”—Ibid., p. 450. On page 434 we are
told that any woman who permits undue attention and familiarities from
any man other than her husband “is an adulteress and harlot.”
Divorce Permitted
Divorce was not only divinely permitted in the Exodus Movement but is
absolutely necessary to the protection of the marriage institution. Only
one ground for divorce, however, was recognized. Deuteronomy 24:1-4. “If
she goes and marries another man.” (Moffatt). There is no divine
permission for her to remarry, because she is the guilty party, but if
she does remarry and then gets a divorce, the first husband has no right
to remarry her. “She shall not be allowed to return to the first who
divorced her, to be married as his wife, after she has sinned, for that
would be loathsome in the presence of the Ever-Living.” (Fenton). This
is equivalent to saying that no person has the right to marry the guilty
party who also has no right to remarry. It also indicates that it is a
sin to continue living with a husband or wife who is guilty of adultery,
unless, of course, there is a thorough repentance and reformation.
New Testament
The New Testament maintains exactly the same standards, for the
Scriptures constitute one Book with one standard. The entire Bible came
from the same source and cannot contradict itself. Jesus did not lift
the standard any higher. He only “magnified” the law and the Old
Testament Scriptures so that we can grasp their true spiritual
significance. This is illustrated in Matthew 5:21, 22, 27, 28, 31, 32.
Jesus does not raise the standard of the writings of Moses; he only
explains their real meaning and significance. It was Christ who gave the
instruction through Moses and He is only explaining His own Word. It is
not true that Moses permitted divorce on unscriptural grounds, and it is
also not true that Christ did not permit divorce on any grounds. The
standard is the same in both ancient and modern Israel in both the Old
and New Testament. The statement of Christ is repeated in Matthew 19:9.
Divorce and remarriage are divine rights on the part of the innocent
party only.
Marriage Tie Broken
Adultery by either husband or wife breaks the marriage tie as completely
as if the marriage had never been consummated. 1 Corinthians 6:15-18.
“Or do you not know that a man who has do with a prostitute is one
with her in body? For God says, “The two shall become one.” (Wey).
This explains what Jesus meant when he said that when a man and woman
are joined in marriage “the two shall become one flesh.” Therefore
when either of them commit adultery; the marriage tie is broken and the
guilty party becomes one flesh with another. This is one meaning of the
statement, “what God has joined together let no man put asunder.”
Husbands and wives are commanded not to permit another man or woman to
come between them and put them asunder by breaking the marriage tie.
Innocent Party
If the innocent party continues to live with a companion who is living
in adultery and who has thus become one flesh with another, he or she
also becomes guilty of immorality. Of course if the guilty party truly
repents and confesses the wrong and shows evidence of bringing forth
fruit meet for repentance, the innocent party may exercise forgiveness
and take the transgressor back. However, this decision can be made only
by the one who has remained loyal to the marriage tie, and if there is
evidence that the repentance is not genuine and that the sin will be
repeated, he or she has the right before God to make the separation
permanent and to obtain a divorce. There is no other way to protect the
sacredness of the marriage institution. The person who obtains a divorce
on the only grounds recognized in the Scriptures, has just as much right
to remarry as to marry in the first place and is undeserving of
criticism when he or she chooses to exercise this right.
Advent Movement
This is the standard of the Advent Movement. See “Church Manual” on
“Marriage and Divorce.” With those who accept the truth and come out
of the world, we believe that the Lord accepts them where he finds them
and forgives the past in which are many things that cannot be undone. An
attempt to fix up the past would in many instances do more harm than
good by adding sin to sin. Whatever the past life has been, if there is
evidence of genuine repentance and of a consistent Christian life we
must conclude that God has forgiven and accepted those whom Christ is
able and anxious to “save to the uttermost.” The genuine Christian
in the church will never snub such or harass them with gossip but will
treat them as they would be treated. Jesus declared that the publicans
and harlots had a better chance of entering the kingdom than the
hypocritical and self righteous Pharisees. There is nothing that more
effectually disqualifies a person for the kingdom of heaven like the
spirit of intolerance. The spirit of Christ and Christians is that of
love, forbearance and forgiveness.
A Godly Example
“The relation between Christ and His church, and Christ and His
individual followers, is represented in the Scriptures by the marriage
relation. We are united to Christ by the cords of love which produce
loyalty. Sin cuts the tie that binds us to Christ and if persistently
and continuously indulged in will eventually lead to a divorce or
separation. Any kind of disloyalty or unfaithfulness to Christ including
“the friendship of the world” is declared to be spiritual adultery.
James 4:4. Christ is not bound to continue in union with a harlot. The
very thought is repulsive. Therefore, Christ Himself has set the example
of divorce on the ground of adultery. See Ezekiel 23:1-5; Isaiah 50:1;
Jeremiah 3:8. Nothing short of this high standard of purity and loyalty
is in keeping with the character of Christ, who is “of purer eyes than
to behold evil,” and to “look on iniquity.” The Lord intends that
His people shall maintain the same high standards in purity and
morality. |
